When I was a kid, I felt powerless when my parents would argue.
They’d blame one another for who was at fault for some small detail and they’d overlook the bigger picture of what they’re doing to themselves and to our family when they’d fight over the small stuff. I’d be able to see that and feel that there must be a better way but I believed I couldn’t do anything to change it. I didn’t have a vision for any other way they could relate to one another…
Now, I’m grown up and I have my own wife and baby.
I see why parents would argue the way that they did. It’s so easy to fall into that rhythm. It’s so easy to just try to do your part and when something goes wrong, try to justify how you’ve done your duty and— not because you want to blame the other person— but because of the simple process of elimination, if it’s not your fault, it likely has to be their fault. And that’s how it happens. You’re a good-intentioned human being doing your best; you feel largely unfulfilled, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and then, the little things you care about are not the way they should be… and that’s how it starts.
When I was a kid, I promised myself that I would figure this out.
I promised myself that I would find a better way. To a small degree I have, but largely, I’m still looking. And I’ve found that to be the core key to any success I’ve had in gracefully navigating through life with my family. I’ve looked for a better way. I’ve looked for a way that aims to care for more than just me. It’s not enough to do just do your part if you can do more. If you can do more, you must try. If there’s something that can help you do more, you must seek it. If you need help seeking it, you must ask for that help. Nothing short of an Authentically Happy Family is sufficient. It’s possible, even if you’ve never experienced it in your past.
I’ve created SoorenaTV to find how to make that possibility a reality.
And to share the roadmap to it. But until those answers are found, all that I have for you is the search. And I’m sharing that with you here.